Dear readers, Welcome back to another segment of Conversations with J. R., to days topic staying in relationship when they no longer bring us happiness.
New Flash!! Did you know what kind of relationship your in? I never thought about this question until I had a conversation with a group of Millennial’s about relationship status. I wasn’t prepared for their openness and the nonchalant manner they view relationships. Did you know that we live in a society where relationships have titles and definitions. Gone are the days of boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boys asks girl to go steady, she says yes, and the rest is history…. This method of dating worked for my parents they were marred for 32 years.
Here’s a fact: People are emotionally scared because they invest time, energy, money and their emotions into what they perceive to be an exclusive relationship only to discover that they were in a SITUATION, instead of a relationship.
These are some of the classifications of relationships that is now viewed as situations.
- Just kicking it.
- Friends with benefits
- Side piece
- Lets just see what happens
- Mr. or Mrs. for right now
- Just something to do
- Open relationship
- In between relationships
So, What Say you? Because I am at a loss for words.
J. R, Floyd Host of YouTube: Conversations with J. R.
Dear readers, I have ventured out into the unknown what do I mean? I’ve decided to start a YouTube channel: Conversations with J. R. Floyd, come and lets talk about everyday topics like, relationship, money, women empowerment and so much more.
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Dear Readers, Hello another segment from my You Tube channel: Live reading from my short Story, A Different Flavor of Love. Available on Amazon. Thank you for listening. J. R. Floyd
Hi, its me again. I’m enjoying my new creative outlet. Oh, you haven’t heard. I’ve created a You Tube channel. I like to think of it as my Talk Show: conversations from my Couch, hosted by J. R. Floyd. I am having so much fun being in font of the camera talking about problems of everyday life. Watch this segment about one word that I feel don’t mix well in a relationship. PRIVACY.
If you are now joining my blog a few days ago a light bulb went off in my head. I’ve decided to create a You Tube channel, my own little talk show called Conversations from my Couch. This is an open forum to talk about every day issues, like relationships, women empowerment, health and fitness, political topics, and education. I am going to have fun, but be serious when I need to be. I just want to talk to the PEOPLE. so let me hear from you.
This segment comes to you courtesy of my very, very good friend Sara. She agreed to do an impromptu talk about some relationships myths. Sit Back and have Fun.
Someone comes into your life after many seasons of broken and dysfunctional relationships; He/She said “I love you” and the expectation is to respond, “I love you.” What happens when you do not feel this heart-pounding, palm sweaty, gitty LOVE? You are happy with the companionship and camaraderie of the relationship. You have opened your heart to caring for someone who have brought joy in your life that was dark and empty. However, there is the question of LOVE.
You are forced to evaluate your position in the relationship because your partner is not satisfied with how deeply you care for them he/she wants LOVE. What is LOVE? What is this LOVE that leads people to search until they have connected body and soul to their true soul mate; but disappointment comes because the LOVE you thought you found was confused with lust and infatuation. What is the secret for the couples who stayed together for 20, 20, 40 plus years?
I believe that the bond shared between people extend beyond the boundaries of the kind of LOVE that people mentally boxed themselves into. LOVE is a word that people carelessly throw around. LOVE is the reason why some people say they get married. No. you get married because you and your partner have vowed to love, honor, respect, and care for each other, while forsaking all others. These wedding vows have a deeper meaning then saying I LOVE You. We have all know a couple or two that have vowed to love and honor until death does its part, but at the first sign of trouble, they contact a divorce lawyer.
When my father passed I watched my mother stare at his closed casket and after 32 years of marriage, she said,” there goes my best friend.” That was 24 years ago and I still get goose bumps when I recall that moment. People say “I LOVE YOU.” For many different reasons. I say it is the intentions behind and what is in the heart of the person who says “I LOVE YOU.”
I will say this I will never judge a person based on how much I think he/she loves or does not’ love me. People express LOVE in various ways. Because we have our narrow vision of what we want LOVE to be sometimes we miss extraordinary experiences because we close our eyes to LOVE.
Think about this the next time someone holds your hand. When a stranger flashes an authentic smile, the kind that light sparkles in their eyes. When you receive, a hug and the person squeeze you and holds on for a few extra seconds.When you receive a card that say, “Thinking of You.”
When a stranger shows an act of kindness by paying for your coffee. Think about the time when you were at the end of the rope and just when you let go, someone caught you and helped you to hold on. LOVE is in every moment of each day. Do not close your heart, soul and mind to that spirit of love that flows around us every day.
What Say You?