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In the Spirit of LOVE

Dear Readers,

Someone comes into your life after many seasons of broken and dysfunctional relationships; He/She said “I love you” and the expectation is to respond, “I love you.” What happens when you do not feel this heart-pounding, palm sweaty, gitty LOVE? You are happy with the companionship and camaraderie of the relationship. You have opened your heart to caring for someone who have brought joy in your life that was dark and empty. However, there is the question of LOVE.

You are forced to evaluate your position in the relationship because your partner is not satisfied with how deeply you care for them he/she wants LOVE. What is LOVE? What is this LOVE that leads people to search until they have connected body and soul to their true soul mate; but disappointment comes because the LOVE you thought you found was confused with lust and infatuation. What is the secret for the couples who stayed together for 20, 20, 40 plus years?

I believe that the bond shared between people extend beyond the boundaries of the kind of LOVE that people mentally boxed themselves into. LOVE is a word that people carelessly throw around. LOVE is the reason why some people say they get married. No. you get married because you and your partner have vowed to love, honor, respect, and care for each other, while forsaking all others. These wedding vows have a deeper meaning then saying I LOVE You. We have all know a couple or two that have vowed to love and honor until death does its part, but at the first sign of trouble, they contact a divorce lawyer.

When my father passed I watched my mother stare at his closed casket and after 32 years of marriage, she said,” there goes my best friend.” That was 24 years ago and I still get goose bumps when I recall that moment. People say “I LOVE YOU.” For many different reasons. I say it is the intentions behind and what is in the heart of the person who says “I LOVE YOU.”

I will say this I will never judge a person based on how much I think he/she loves or does not’ love me. People express LOVE in various ways. Because we have our narrow vision of what we want LOVE to be sometimes we miss extraordinary experiences because we close our eyes to LOVE.

Think about this the next time someone holds your hand. When a stranger flashes an authentic smile, the kind that light sparkles in their eyes. When you receive, a hug and the person squeeze you and holds on for a few extra seconds.When you receive a card that say, “Thinking of You.”

When a stranger shows an act of kindness by paying for your coffee. Think about the time when you were at the end of the rope and just when you let go, someone caught you and helped you to hold on. LOVE is in every moment of each day. Do not close your heart, soul and mind to that spirit of love that flows around us every day.

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A Hand shake or a Hug?

Dear readers,

It’s shameful that we live in a society where physical contact such as, a handshake or a meaningful hug is fading. Nowadays, people are formal and considered not to offend anyone least they cry sexual harassment. When I was growing up, my teachers hugged me when I was feeling sad, for performing well in school, before leaving on summer break, and to welcome me back to a new school year.

Now, assumptions are when teachers are observed hugging their students; or if two men hug, instead of shaking hands. Young ladies are warned not to get too close to a man when hugging him; and that men should wait until a women offers her hand before he extend his hand for a handshake.

There are guide lines for handshakes, for example, a firm handshake is significant, or if a person doesn’t extend  their hand, this is considered an offensive gesture. In some cultures fathers don’t hug their sons. Mature children push away their parents when they attempt to hug them. Elderly people don’t receive as many hugs as they should.

Hugs between intimate couples have become routine and lack true emotional value. Some people hug their pets with more tenderness than they do humans. We are getting further away from staying connected physically because we over look the small important gestures like, holding hands, hugs, or a smile. Yet, we will text or email an emoji  to express how we feel.

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