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I remember When…..

Dear Readers,

There is a Rap song titled “We came from nothing” and an old church hymn that talks about building a house on a solid foundation. When I think of a solid foundation, I think of family. civilization was created with the idea family being the fabric that holds society together. Family is where children are supposed to learn the values and morals of life. The knowledge passed into children from their grandparents are words of wisdom that is the sum of their life experience and struggles they have conquered.

Family is where mothers teach daughters how to be domestic divas and at the same time how to be self-sufficient, while preparing to meet their life partners. Family is where fathers educate their sons how to respect women and what their responsibilities are to their future wives and children. Family is where children learn to love, share, communicate and stay close to their siblings.

Our family’s teach the importance of honoring our elders and never forgetting those who passed on. Family is where babies are celebrated and weddings are a serious extended family event, and death is seen as a home going not the end. In a perfect world, this would make sense.

Nowadays, the family structure is broken and seems damaged beyond repair. Divorce has swept through generations if to say the only way to be happy is to remain single. Mothers burdened with the task of raising multiple children by different fathers. Men are running from home to home spreading their seeds without looking back to see them to maturity. Grandparents are now parents to children parents felt that parenthood is too burdensome. Aunts and Uncles have become best friends to their nieces and nephews, instead of being role models of good leadership and guidance to help younger family members to navigate a world of hate and misery.

I remember growing up eating at a long wooden table this was a sacred time for my family. We waited for family members to arrive for the pleasure of sharing a meal. We did not answer the phone or watch TV. We sat, ate, talked, and laughed. As I got older, the family dinner table became the place were serious family matters were discussed and solved. Sunday was family day, a day relatives anticipated these weekly visits. Nowadays, there are no weekly visits or calls just to say,” hi, how are you.” No one sends cards by snail mail anymore, and we texted instead of letting our voices be heard.

We carry senseless grudges until somebody dies and then we live with the guilt of not asking for forgiveness while they were alive. Children thrown out of their homes at 18 because parents feel it is time for them to go. The visits to elderly family members get less and less, we have replaced time spend in person with technology. We have allowed the grind for that next promotion to get the new car or the bigger house, and spend less and less time with family. In addition, parents are over scheduling children in extra after school activities to keep them busy.

Take a second and think. Do you wish for the days when Family was first, and everything else followed.

What say you?

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Can You Hear Me Now?

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Dear readers,

I received your text, email and Facebook message, but what I did not hear was your voice. I’m okay with the advancement in technology, in the words of my partner, “people have to keep up with modern technology, or be left behind,” he said this, when he shut off my landline, and brought me my first mobile phone four years ago. I was also, okay with not being a slave to this little compact communication device.

Before texting, people actually “reached out and touched someone,” by calling; and they were conscious of how they used their phones due to the high cost. Now, many phone carriers encourage customers to text and talk with low-cost unlimited plans. People are busy looking down playing games, reading, texting, searching, googling, and video chatting. Yes, now we can see the person we are talking to because they have an app for that.

What Say You?

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Dating: Baby Boomers versus the Millennials

 

cq5dam.web.420.270Coming from the Baby Boomer generation I believe that a balance of old school ideology, and Millennial modern-day attitude can coexist. Yet, as time goes by the one area where there doesn’t seem to be equilibrium between the generations is dating.

In this modern-day of technology, trying to meet someone for the purpose of developing a romantic relationship is proving to be a challenge. For many of us Baby Boomers the computer is viewed as an obstacle when it comes to matters of the heart. We don’t want to spend hours sitting behind a computer shuffling through hundreds of profiles. Instead, we prefer to be outdoors interacting with people face to face, where we can straight forwarded ask someone out on a date versus texting or sending an email.

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What say you?