Relationship 101

Dear Readers,

How often have you asked yourself this question, What happened to my RELATIONSHIP/PARTNERSHIP?

what happened after the first encounter, hook up, attraction etc. How long has it been since you thought about the attraction between you and your partner?  When was the last time you sat down with your partner and walked down memory lane to discover how the emotional disconnect became complacent…….I  have observed an increasing number of couples, who seem to exist in a relationship that is centered around raising children, paying bills, careers and acquiring an education resulting in the death of the relationship due to neglect and emotional disconnect. So the partnership dies. And the individuals except this death of  intimacy of the partnership as fate.


What Say You?

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On Being Mom


Dear Readers,

Last night changed today. Let me explain. Yesterday, I created a to do list for today. One of my goals for the New Year ( 2019) is to plan and stick to a daily agenda so that my tasks do not pile up and overwhelm me. I received a call from my daughter in law telling me that my son (my only child) at the age of 37 had a heart attack. I eased myself to the floor while I listened to her relay the events of the day that resulted in her calling for emergency assistance. My immediate concern is for her and my three grandchildren because my son is the rock of that family, and their three children is the center of his life. Mothers are never prepared for these type of phone calls. Making this situation more complicated they live in North Carolina, and I live thousands of miles away in New York City. My first instinct is to pack and get moving, but my daughter in law communicated that my son said for me to stay put until they have information from the doctors. She continued to assure me that he is receiving good service and that she would not leave his side. So, I must stop pacing and wrenching my hands and make good use of my time by sticking to today’s schedule. My son is my biggest fan and supporter of my journey  of becoming a writer. Through all of life’s trials’ and errors my son has been the best miracle that’s ever happened to me. I make myself better so that he has a mom that he can be proud of. So, today with a lot of prayers, tears and positive thinking, I push on…….



The Sins of a Woman

Dear Readers,

This video is in response to a podcast I listened to on You Tube-titled: Why?  Distracted women Discourage men. The speakers did not answer this question. instead, they place blame on women for broken relationships and for men leaving their homes. I was insulted by the old school think that women have stepped out of their roles and are in direct competition with men. The male speakers also concluded that women who declare themselves independent by acquiring a college education,  high paying job, purchase their own home, and raise children without the assistance of a man,  they find fault in what many women are choosing to do. I challenge you to listen to the podcast and come to your own conclusion.  Thank you for watching.



The Road I’ve Traveled


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In 2016, I embarked on a journey to explore the world of creative writing and a funny thing happened I discovered that I have a knack for telling stories and blogging about life. So, here I am three years later, and my journey has been awesome to say the least. I have self-published two short novels, The Waiting Game, a memoir of my struggles with relationship myths and how believing these myths can be damaging to women’s self-esteem. A Different Flavor of Love, chronicles the journey of a young single mother search for true love. The best news is that I created a You Tube channel, Conversations with J. R. Floyd, dedicated to exploring relationships and the lack of moral values. This has been an amazing journey of up and downs, self-discovery and renewal. I have arrived at an awareness of talents that pushed me to take risks and step outside of certain limitations to understand that I am capable of so much more than settling for the status quo. So, here I am introducing myself to the world an unknown writer, blogger and talk show host. My mission is to take my readers and viewers on a journey of discovering life beyond borders. Each month I will share what’s new in the world of J. R. Floyd, offer some tidbits of knowledge and mention some good reads, healthy life style choices, and share with you my latest episode from Conversations with J. R. Floyd. In the meantime, I encourage you to purchase one of my books available on amazon. Until then, the wait is over the choice is yours. Let’s have a Conversation.


The Chosen Few

Dear readers, please read this with an open mind.

I was once asked who called me to Ministry, at that time I could not answer this question. Why, because I am a teacher by vocation, so I don’t consider myself a preacher, Ephesians 4: 11, And he gave some apostles; and some, prophets; and some, Evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers. For years people have said to me that God has a calling on my life. Now, if the question is what the will of God for my life is, I would answer like Paul, I am a servant of God and that this Ministry I have been called to is to serve the people who Jesus dedicated his short ministry too; the sick, poor, the outcast, the broken in heart and spirit, and those who have given up hope. As believers, some of us have lost sight of the original mission for following the life of Jesus, turning the House of God into a building for fund-raising, “and he said unto them, it is written, my house shall be called the house of prayer, but ye have made it a den of thieves” Matthew 21:13 KJV. What I am observing is that many of the House of Worship rarely distribute money into the community to provide support for the needy. Many others and I have become dissatisfied with Preachers who run from church to church collecting offerings for delivering the word of GOD. The teaching of God’s word should be given freely to whosoever will listen. Jesus took nothing, but he gave much. This world is filled with millions of Houses of Worship, yet the spirits in dark places seem to be winning. Houses of Worships are empty and closing not because people don’t believe, it’s because our spiritual leaders have forsaken their calling because they desire MEGA churches, with a MEGA choir and a MEGA congregation, which in turn will mean MEGA BUCKS.
Some Pastors do not honor the role that they have been chosen to serve, they forsake spending intimate time with their congregation, they don’t reach out to the sick, rarely show up for bible study or Sunday school, charge a fee for performing marriages, baptism and counselling. Some Pastors arrive at service just in time to perform their fifteen minutes of reading their sermons from paper or the lasts technology; while stumbling through the scriptures, quoting lines from songs to embellish and fill in between thinking what to say next. Once they have successfully solicited the correct emotionally responds their performance heightens by stomping and whomping. After is all said and done what have anyone learnt that can be used in their daily struggles of life. What have the congregation been taught? As I mentioned previously, I am a teacher by trade and talent, and as an educator my duty to my students is to impart skills and knowledge to help shape and prepare them to accomplish their dreams and goals.
Lastly, Pastors are referred to as shepherds, Jesus was the example of the good shepherd, “I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep” John 10:11 KJV. A shepherd’s prize possesses is his SHEEP. A good shepherd knows his sheep, he nurtures them, the shepherd understands that his sheep are dependent on him. A good shepherd makes provision for his flock, he walks among his sheep, he talks to them, he connects to them, they are all precious to him; “He tends His flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart. He gently leads the nursing ewes” Isaiah 40:11 KJV. I am not preaching religion nor is my purpose is to convert my readers. What I have spoken here is what I have observed and here other believers voicing their concerns about the lost sheep crying out in the wilderness and the shepherds who are ignoring their cry.

What Say you?

J. R. Floyd ( Dragthepen)



2018 Year In Review


Dear Readers,

This has been a year of tumultuous ups and downs and devastating loss.  It all started when I thought that I had found the one my soul loves only to be bamboozled into a nightmare of an engagement that I had to end. I relocated three times and during each move I lost sentimental items not to mention time and money. My graduate thesis was rejected, and I had to postpone the date of my oral exam for my ordination because of my personal turmoil. I lost focus, discipline and drive, thus leading me to gain twenty pounds that I am struggling to lose. It has taken me months to reach a point of emotionally stable.

Now the good news……

Because of this year’s struggles I wrote a sequel to my memoir, The Waiting Game, I titled it, “90 days of Reflection, Discovery and Renewal.”  I will publish this 90-day emotional journey summer 2019. My broken engagement was the brick wall that shocked me into a serious reality check. I became aware of the damage I caused myself by allowing fear to rule my decisions. I have made excuses and held myself back by not taking risk to achieve my goals. I have wasted years singing the WHEN song. When I get a higher paying job, when I complete my education, when I find a suitable partner, when I have my own home, when I lose the weight, when, when, when….I have not lived to my fullest potential because I continue to think that there has to be a perfect time for life to be enjoyed.  After 90 days of deep reflection and the awareness of the patterns in my life that keep me stuck in a vortex of dead ends; I can move forward with better clarity, purpose and mindfulness. I don’t have the luxury to wallow in self-pity or to play the role of the victim. Although, I have fallen numerous times and managed to get back up. However, this time is different I had to pull myself back on my feet by crawling and hauling myself up one level at a time. I was literally stripped down to ground zero, but the rebuilding of my life and the restructuring of my goals is better because my outlook and purpose is more meaningful.

Moving Forward…..

I have been feverishly working to remove most of the people, places and things that I see as obstacles while rerouting my life. My living environment is spacious, quiet and conducive to helping me to maintain my sanity. I have taken steps to regain my health by working with a wonderful vegan nutritionist and personal coach for a 90-day makeover starting Jan 1, 2019, I am very excited to get started. Each New Year’s Day I teach a workshop for creating Vision Boards, this year’s theme will be: Pray, Plan and Work for the life you want. I am eternally grateful to my friends, family and colleagues who gave me their time and support during the most difficult days. I am ready for change, but most important I feel a sense of clarity and happiness that has been absent from my life. My hope is that my readers will read this and reflect and discover ways to Renew the area of their life that has lost its light and happiness. HAPPY, HEALTHY, BLESSED NEW YEAR.

J. R. Floyd (Dragthepen)